21.7.15

nine in the afternoon {a photo shoot}













'cause it's nine in the afternoon,
and your eyes are the size of the moon.
you could 'cause you can so you do,
we're feeling so good
just the way that do
when it's nine in the afternoon.

~

i know the lyrics are pretty irrelevant but i don't like posting a shoot without some lyrics.
i'm weird i know.
but anyways can we talk about archer's outfit bc seriously.
it's so cUTE I'M DYING.

~

dear ag community,
a lot of us say that you guys are fake. when most people say that, they're talking about the happy lads that use caps and exclamation points. well, you know what? when i say that a lot of ag bloggers (and others) are fake, i don't only mean that, because i know for a fact that there are a decent number of you who are genuinely sweet, happy people that are honestly making the world a better, brighter place. tbh the people with the "fake" smiles and happiness don't bother me that much at all, it's the people that will suddenly start acting differently, seemingly to appeal to a group or individual on here. that annoys the living shit out of me (pardon my french). don't think for a second that i'm gonna like you better if you like the same bands i do. don't think that if you start writing without caps that i'm gonna love you more than life itself. don't think that swearing a few times is gonna make me bow down to you. i love you guys for who you are. now this obviously isn't just happening to me specifically, and it's not just the whole "liking bands" deal. all over the place there are people doing things and changing themselves to appeal to others. just be yourself, p l e a s e. i don't care if you're ten and i'm fourteen, i don't care if you're thirty and i'm fourteen, if you're you and aren't totally prickish, i'm gonna like you. but being someone that i know you're not? i'm just gonna get annoyed and fed up. take this message and do with it what you will, at this point i don't care if you disagree. if you do, actually, let me know! as long as you have reasons behind what you believe, i'm chill. we can discuss it, have a nice conversation, see the different sides. i'm down for that. hell, you can yell at me in the comments if you want. accuse me of things. i'm kind of looking forward to hearing peoples' thoughts. i've already poked the ag community with a stick numerous times, you all know where i stand in things, so tell me--where are you? are you yourself? why? why not? have you ever felt like you wanted to change yourself on here to appeal to others? really, i want to know. i don't just want this message to you to sound like me trying to smother your opinions with mine. we're all equal here, in my eyes. speak up, and you shall be heard.

regards,
maddie

35 comments:

  1. For a fraction of my blogging time I tried to be a flower child. To fit in. To appeal.
    Obviously that didn't work out and my true dorky, music loving self came out.
    And with coming out came people adopting some of the things I liked. It was cool, at first. But now that I have one band that only I like, it's certainly not.
    I would much rather see someone giddy over their true interests, then posting stuff just to fit in. And I don't have a problem if somebody gets into something and truly likes it after hearing about it from me, or anyone else. What's not cool, is taking everything from one person and trying to adapt to be like them. It leaves them annoyed, and, in my case, hesitant to share what I really love anymore. I don't want to have to share everything I love, and that means something to me, with others.
    xo Adi

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    1. same here--i was definitely somebody i wasn't in reality.
      it was, and i'm always excited when i get someone into a band--that is, when they truly like the band and aren't just putting on a show.
      me too, when i see someone get excited over something they truly enjoy it makes me smile like crazy. i totally get you there, some people may see it as selfish but it reall does feel different when someone else claims to "like" something that means a lot to you. yeah, it's like, i want to share what i'm into and what i like, but when others take it for themselves? i can't deal with that. i know how much people doing this upsets you, and tbh it's a big part of why i decided to post this. people deserve to have a few things to call their own in this community without a bunch of twelve year olds acting like a totally different person because of that.

      -mads

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  2. When I started out my blog as Saige, she was a hyper young girl. Now she is more calm, because I don't like hyper people. I'm not saying you should change, but no capitals are really bugging me. ^-^ It's just my opinion.
    <3Bella

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    1. i like that, it makes it seem like she's matured. :)
      well, i'm sure you aren't the only one that feels that way about no-caps. ;) i feel like it suits me, which is why i stick with it.

      -mads

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  3. Thank you for saying this. I tried to fit in by saying I liked all the same books as others did, when really, I didn't. Now I feel more laid back and myself, realizing, I don't need to fit in here. I can be myself. ^-^

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    1. hey, it needed to be said, and i feel like i'm the one that had to say it. ;)
      i'm glad to hear you're more comfortable being yourself now.

      -maddie

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  4. First of all, Archer's outfit is GORGEOUS! That hat is so cute. :) And second, I personally try not to be fake, I try not to change who I am. Have I been influenced by the blogging community? YES. I believe it's been a good change though. I personally don't like no-caps either, I wouldn't do it, but it doesn't bother me that you do it. I guess I don't really have much to say about that long paragraph you put at the end... I'm sorry.

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    1. thanks! it's probably my favorite outfit i've ever made. :) that's my favorite thing about you tenley--you're you. so thank you for that, i mean it. :3
      yeah, it takes a certain type of person to comfortably type with no-caps. glad to hear it doesn't bother you too much. :)

      -maddie

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    2. Thank you so much. I think that if you were you and I was me all the time, everyone would be much happier.

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    3. i agree completely.

      -maddie

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  5. I agree with what your saying.
    On here, I've actually found it easier to be myself than real life, though! It's really weird, but I think that when I'm face to face with someone (I noticed it a lot at school last year, because it wasn't the best year for me), I change, just a little. It's as annoying as heck watching myself in those scenes just minutes later. I feel fake like that, and 'fake' isn't my style. It really bothered me, and I felt like I could only be myself around a select few. I didn't know what was wrong, but I have a weird feeling that next year will be better. I'm trying to build my confidence back up over the summer, and be that same girl I was the year before last.
    Like I began by saying, on here I find it so much easier to be me - that's the only thing I really try to be on here, and that's the only thing I'll try to be starting now.

    ~Diana

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    1. that's exactly how i felt when i was in seventh grade (so not this past schoolyear but the one before that), so you aren't alone there. this past year, however, like you plan to do this coming year, i somehow managed to scrape up the self confidence i needed and whaddaya know--people actually liked me more. i hope the same thing happens for you. ^-^
      good for you for being yourself, it's sometimes a very hard thing to do, and you're doing it just wonderfully. :3

      -maddie

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  6. Maddie holy crap you are amazing. This needed to be said so badly. Thank you. :)

    ~J

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    1. thanks. :) no problem, it really did need to be said.

      -maddie

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  7. I have several things to say.
    1. NINE IN THE AFTERNOON OH MY GOD OH MY GOD NINE IN THE AFTERNOON I LOVE THAT SONG I'M LITERALLY DYING MADDIE I'M LITERALLY DYING.
    2. Archer's outfit is amaze and she is pretty as heck and that is that.
    3. Before I first started blogging, I'd spent months observing different doll blogs. They all seemed to be happy and smiley faces and exclamation marks, so I thought that's what you had to do to come off as nice. (Which I wanted to. I genuinely want to be/am nice, when I deem someone is worthy enough to be nice too. (Although that probably wasn't that nice of a statement. But who cares.)) So when I started blogging, I was all "Hey guys!! :)" at the beginning of every post and ":)" and "!!!!" all over the effing place. Now I'm starting to see that my thought process was a little off. It is more important, I think, to be myself, even if that comes off as rude or arrogant (which I will be the first to admit I generally am), than to be "!!!!" and ":D" to come off as nice. I think the biggest wake-up call was when I asked my followers what HP house they thought I'd be in. Some said Ravenclaw (which I've since figured out is my house), but a LOT said Hufflepuff. Honey, I am definitely not a Hufflepuff, and I realized I was coming off the way, which is a way that I'm not. So since then I've been trying to be more myself, although barfing smiley faces all over is a surprisingly hard habit to break, and I'm always worrying, "what will people think"??? But I'm trying to less.
    And I really wanted to fit in with the bloggers I idolized when I started, so I tried (somewhat, not a ton though) to like the things they liked. But soon I realized "that's not gonna work because no matter how hard I try I can't force myself to like stuff I don't" and just started being more me and that worked out a lot better. (I kicked that habit to the curb quite early, though.)
    That all probably didn't relate too much to the post but oh well.

    - Ellie

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    1. 1.) YES YES ELLIE YESSSS NINE IN THE AFTERNOON IT'S SUCH A GOOD SONG ASDFGHJKL
      2.) she says thanks. ;)
      3.) (i do the same thing tbh so don't worry) same here, in fact when i go back and read my older posts i will physically cringe. it is much more important, i agree, and i can tell you straight up that i absolutely love the real ellie. ;) "barfing smiley faces" i need that on a shirt. anywaysss i can relate to the wanting to fit in with the bloggers i idolize most, and i'll admit to still doing that today, despite everything i've ever said.
      who cares if anything relates to the post or not, i loved reading your comment on how you've changed the way you act on here, and i'm very glad you shared it. ^-^

      -maddie

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  8. Archer looks stunning! OHMYCOWSPOTATOES YOU MADE THAT HAT?!!?! (I thought I saw one of your Google+ posts saying so) YOU ARE SO TALENTED! ^_^
    Your message to the AG Community is so well-written and as others said, most certainly needed to be said.
    I'm pretty sure I am the same way online than off--I do type with a lot of CAPS, Exclamation marks!!!, and big huge smiley faces :D, because in real life, I am actually a super bubbly, happy type of girl, so in place of my super loud excited voice in real life, I use caps and exclamation points and such.
    I don't read a lot of the same books or watch the same TV shows/movies or listen to the same music because it usually doesn't appeal to me personally and/or my family and I don't approve of the said show/book/movie (not the person watching it, but the thing itself)
    I truly am that super loud, excited (that could be perceived as overly excited), crazy-cat-loving, lover of anything old-fashioned, genuinely happy girl and I hope the way I write doesn't make me seem obnoxious or fake, but it is truly the way I am.
    Wow, this is such a long comment! I'm so sorry about that, Maddie--feel free to remove it if ti's cluttering up your comment box too much :)
    ♥ Shelby

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    1. she says thanks. ^-^ yeah, i did! thank you, i'm so glad you like it. <3
      aw, well thank you. :) oh my gosh shelby you're amazing, i love how happy and upbeat you are, and you've definitely made an impact in my life. i admire how totally confident you are, you've always been yourself on here and honestly, close to no one can say they've accomplished that. you should be proud. ^-^
      sweetheart, don't ever apologize for a long comment because honestly i love them. ;) :3

      -maddie

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  9. Archer's outfit is SO CUTE.

    Also, I feel that I'm in the middle as it goes. I'm kinda peppy and stuff, but not even close to being a flower child. Even with my friends I'm the 'kind' and 'sweetest' girl they know. *Cue eye roll*. They must have met a lot of jerks in the world if I'm sweet girl. I honestly can't say I'm into bands and stuff either. I don't see many middle blogs out there though, so it's hard for me to be me in blogging. I try but IDK.

    Thanks for the letter. Everyone needs to read that.

    ~Emily

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    1. thank you. ^-^

      i can relate, in my group of friends i'm always deemed the "innocent" one and such (hard to believe, eh?). *rolls eyes with you* i think you're you very well. ;) and i think it's awesome that you're a "middle blog", i wish there were more of 'em out there.

      -maddie

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  10. Archer......Cuteness overload, that's all I'm gonna say.
    I do, a bit. Dolls and books are my escape from reality, and if I was really acting how I feel all the time I would act much more mature and quieter, I think. It's hard for me to explain, so I typically just let my younger-what-no-what-could-ever-in-this-world-be-wrong? personality come through, because it's easier than doing/saying things I really mean. Occasionally I do let my slightly more "street-smart" personality (as my friend calls it) appear on my blog or in emails to my friends, but largely I use caps lock and smiley faces and exclamation points, kinda in a "hey look at how happy I am" way.

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    1. she's too cute for words. O.o
      i totally get the whole "it's easier than doing/saying things i really mean". i felt like that for a long time, too.

      -maddie

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    2. True. Though I will admit, she can't make me do crazy things like Em can. ;)
      I'm trying to get better at it, but.....it's so much easier, especially when I have a lot of big opinions.

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  11. Maddie. This was perfect.
    I think all of us tried for at least part of our blogging time to be someone we weren't. Which really doesn't help anything.
    Everyone who I really love on here doesn't try to be someone they're not, they are genuine with whoever they are.
    I think we all needed this and it was great.

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    1. aw, thanks leah. :3
      i do too, i know for a fact that i did. it's kind of inevitable that at some point in your blogging experience, you're gonna act like someone you're not.
      same here.
      i think so, too. thanks again. ^-^

      -maddie

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  12. That is way too true. I guess I would consider myself one of those happy people, but I genuinely DO want to make people happy! My problem is, I'm changing and growing new interests, that I LOVE and want to share, but then it seems like I'm only liking those things and changing my interests because that band or show is the "cool" thing to like. Our lovely Adi helped me find my new interests and I don't know what I would be doing without them, but I feel that's too different from what I appear to be. I just don't want to seem like I don't really like them and that I'm trying to be someone I'm not, when that's not true.

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    1. it could appear as though you're only liking those things because others do (like adi), but when you truly love them i don't have a problem with it--and i know you aren't just liking things to appeal to others.
      well, i think you're doing a wonderful job at keeping it real and being you, if that counts for anything. :)

      -maddie

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  13. Wow Maddie,you should become an author! It's true that everyone has the right to be themselves on their blog. Blogging brings out everyone's inner self, and we all have the right to share it! :)

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  14. Anonymous22.7.15

    I feel so inspired right now, cuz I'm listening to I Lived (onerepublic) and reading this inspiring message. :) But really, you are so funny and you are one of my favorite doll blogs and I love the fact that you don't care what people say about you. I wish I had as much confidence as you! And really, I don't think you should change at all. Sure, I haven't heard of basically any of the bands you like, but I don't care, I just like you for you, and btw, your pictures always turn out amazing! What camera do you use? Hope you don't feel like I'm complementing you too much ( I am not a suck up), I just hope this comment makes you smile! :D

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    1. Anonymous22.7.15

      Oh, one more question, do you watch Aspen Heights?

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  15. Gorgeous outfit! Love using the camera as a prop for the shoot.

    In one of my favorite movies - and for the life of me I can't figure out which one right now (I'm leaning toward Grease 2) - there is a quote, "Be true to you." I love it! I never understood why Sandy had to change to get the guy in Grease. Always be true to you first - the people who matter will stick around and the others, well...you know. ;-)
    ~Xyra

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  16. Maddie, I love the photos but it kills me that you used "Nine In The Afternoon" instead of "She's a Handsome Woman". I mean the lyrics literally go "Go on, grab your hat and fetch a camera. Go on, film the world before it happens" Which is what the pictures pretty much show.

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    1. nita was stuck in my head i had to get it out somehow. xD also i was angry and didn't think things through that well. so oops.

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  17. Maddie, your photos are swoon-worthy, to be completely honest. Archer looks beautiful <3
    And what you said is something every blogger should read before starting their blog. I know that I have in the past tried to fit in, but the thing is, it never works. People actually like originality, believe it or not ^_^ But anyways, you are correct and thank you for sharing <3

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  18. Please do a song from Meghan Trainor's album Title. Like Bang Dem Sticks, the best song in the world. No, make that universe. Make that heavens earth and hell. Holy **** I love your posts. Not this one in particular, but all of the rest. Rest, dear Madserdoo. Virtual cakies,
    Orleansagdoll

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